
Leave the cocoon. Trendy yoga store Lululemon has a little aspiration to get you motivated: “Do one thing a day that scares you”. Some people resist, but for me it’s easy: everything scares me. I’m afraid of car accidents, disease, speaking to strangers, air-born chemicals, dentistry, swimming pools, sharks, spiders. I’m afraid of looking stupid, losing my money in the stock market, dying alone, falling off a cliff. Being chased by bears.
So for me to do something “scary” is pretty normal, I’d be a recluse otherwise. But I make a distinction about the normal-scary condition of life, and getting out of my comfort zone. Like a lot of people, I can habitually do the safe things every day both for the comfort of the familiar AND just because it requires less thought. That’s the whole problem: we save ourselves from disruption by not thinking in new ways. If you’re unwilling to try something that makes you uncomfortable, you end up taking the same picture over and over; buying the same clothing over and over; reading the same books, seeing Star Wars for the 157th time. And the next thing you know, you’re having the same thoughts every day and you are BORED TO DEATH.
The antidote is simple: do something outside your comfort zone. Start a conversation with the person behind you in the grocery line. Take a picture in some new place, like in front of a crowd. If you only read technical books, pick up a murder mystery. If you wear sloppy jeans and a t shirt every day, strut into Nordstrom and put on something trendy and prance around to see how it feels to be stylish.
The possibilities are endless. It does take an effort, but the reward is (a) less fear overall; (b) gaining a feeling that life is an infinity of possibilities; and (c) you are thoroughly competent to handle new situations, which let’s face it, is mostly all the time.
Since your comfort zone will be disrupted by life itself, over and over, you might as well get really good at it by practicing. Most likely little aliens from the center of the earth will NOT enter your bedroom glowing in the dark. But a neighbor might knock on the door screaming about parking, and you can shrug it off as just another small discomfort that doesn’t ruin your day.






